Life After Divorce | The New Me Mom

Hard to believe its already been a whole year since my divorce. Even though I filed in 2021 and had the time to prepare for the future there was still some uncertainty. But look at me…I survived! I didn’t know I would have when it all started. God knew I had enough strength in me to fight for what I deserved and I have learned so much this year. So much about myself and who I’m suppose to be. Who I was created to be. I have learned to trust myself again and that was the hardest part. I’m still learning to open up and be vulnerable of course and with giving myself grace, I know it will come in time. My relationship with Jesus was constantly being tested in my marriage. And since the divorce, without a doubt my relationship with him has only become stronger. I’m serving at church and I’ve also been working at church throughout the week as well. And the friendships I’ve made from both of these opportunities are something God knew I needed.

I continue to work on myself by going to therapy and taking a single and parenting class at church. When I don’t have my children I try and stay as busy as possible, even going back to school. It was a huge goal for me to even sign up for classes, and I’m doing it. I even have an “A” in my classes. School was never my strong suit so getting an “A” is a big deal. I’ve been super proud of myself for this.

I’m learning to co-parent as best as I possibly can. At first it was hard and some days can be more challenging but I have to keep in mind how God would want me to respond. So sometimes I catch myself from doing or saying something I might regret, with keeping my kids and God in mind.

My family has been so supportive and continue to be the best support system, even hundreds of miles away.

I turned 40. That was a huge pill to swallow as I never envisioned myself a single parent at this age. But 40 has been looking pretty great so far.

And dating…well it’s a work in progress. And to be honest, I have no clue what I’m doing!

So overall, this is how life has looked…

One year without fear of living in my own home.

One year without fear of speaking up for myself.

One year without fear of spiritual warfare.

One year without walking on eggshells.

One year without being talked down to.

One year without regrets.

One year of growth.

One year of surviving.

One year of smiling.

One year of being happy.

“The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm.” Exodus 14:14