Life After Divorce | The New Me Mom

Self-Care: the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health.

Each year in the summer, married or not, I plan a trip to Nebraska to see my family. Usually it’s no more than 2 weeks but this year my ex told me to keep the kids for the month of July. As of today we have been here for 2 weeks already and it’s honestly been the best vacation and time away!

I used to think “self-care” meant getting a massage or getting a pedicure, something that meant I needed to fully relax and be still. Something I have a big problem with and just can’t do. I now realize “my” self-care means slowing down long enough to appreciate what means the most to me. Spending one on one time with my daughter has been a huge priority on this trip. This last year has been so hard on her since the divorce and just to take some extra time and focus on her has really been necessary. I knew leaving my son’s structured setting of going to therapies everyday might set him back, and the first week here was hard, actually the flight was the hardest part. However, he has acclimated well being able to make “big wins” for himself. And that makes me so proud of him just stepping out of his comfort zone and trying new things.

I guess if I could wish for something else it would be more sleep…but if I slept like I thought I would, I would be missing out on all the fun adventures and memories we have been making. So after these few weeks I might be way more exhausted than before we came on our vacation but the time spent was so worth it and that’s something I’ll always remember. I’m sure my kids will remember too♥️